2990 Church St., South Mountain, ON

Carole Ann Marriner (Nee Gilmer) September 28, 1951 - August 4, 2020

Peacefully at home, surrounded by loved ones, Carole Marriner of Adam Lake, Perth, Ontario, age 68 on August 4, 2020. Beloved wife of the late Randy Marriner. Loving Mom of Jeff (Ashley) and Erin (Andrew Haig). Cherished Grandma of Connor & Jessica Haig and Montgomery & Rigsby Marriner. Dearly loved sister of Richard (Debbie), Rod, Reg (Charlene), and Anita (Greg Stubbings) and sister-in-law of Joe (Martha) Marriner. Fondly remembered by 15 nieces and nephews and 14 great nieces and nephews and her aunt Shirley MacIntyre.  Predeceased by her parents Marion (nee Shaver) and Dwight Gilmer.

Carole is remembered as a loving mom and grandma, and a cherished friend of many.  Her enjoyment of the outdoors, gardening, hiking, paddling, boating, swimming and skiing and her dedication to nature.  She was an adventurous traveler, dedicated community volunteer, and diligent caretaker of her property at Adam Lake. Carole is the former Executive Director of Big Brothers Big Sisters of Lanark County, and began her career as a teacher at Nationview Public School.

Carole’s family wishes to thank many people for their messages of love and support, and donations of flowers and food.  Gratitude is also extended to the nurses and doctors who provided her care and the compassionate volunteers and medical professionals who enabled her wishes to die a peaceful death with dignity.

A private family graveside service was held at the Sprucehaven Cemetery, Brinston. In Memory of Carole, donations  may be made to Big Brothers Big Sisters of Lanark County ( Arrangements entrusted to the Byers Funeral Home, South Mountain (613-989-3836). Online condolences may be made at

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    Louise Vachon (Backes) says

    My condolences to the family.

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    Butch and Susan Whitteker says

    At this sad time we send our most sincere sympathies to all of Carole’s family.

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    Ian & Lorna Carley says

    Dear Erin, Jeff and families,
    We were shocked and saddened to read of your mom’s passing. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time. May all your pleasant memories growing up and times spent at the lake with your mom give you strength. A memorial donation has been made to Big brothers, Big Sisters. Take care.

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    Anna Smail y says

    Our condolences to the entire Gilmer family. She was a great lady.

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    Sharyn Laushway says

    I was very sad to hear that Carole has passed away and extend my deepest sympathies to her family and friends. Our paths have not crossed much in recent years but she will be remembered as a great person and someone who made the world a better place! Another gone too soon-hugs to you all!

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    Marian Michalicka says

    To all of Carole’s family,
    I am so sorry for your loss. May treasured memories support you through this very difficult time.

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      Lynn Gilmour says

      My sympathy to all family members.

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    Henry Ceelen says

    I would like to extend my condolences and sympathies to the Marriner and Gilmer families.

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    Janet Levere says

    My sympathies to the family. So sorry for your loss.

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    Josephine Fuller says

    Our sincere condolences on your loss. Carole was a great woman with amazing energy and compassion for others. She will be missed.

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    Danny Whitmore says

    So sorry for your loss, Jeff and Erin
    Eileen and I have many memories of your Mom
    We knew her for 35 years
    A great lady

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    Don and Lynne Levere says

    Our sincere sympathy to all the family
    Donald and Lynne Levere

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    Rick and Wendy van Beilen says

    Our condolences to the Gilmer family
    Rick and Wendy Van Beilen

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    Gerry Rosenquist says

    Richard, Rod, Reg, Anita and extended family. Lois and I were so saddened to hear of the passing of Carole. We got to know the whole family including your parents. Please accept our condolences and know that we grieve with you.

    Gerry and Lois Rosenquist

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    Susan Borrowman says

    Jeff, Erin and family, I’m so sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing. I knew your mom when we worked together on the Perth and District Community Foundation board. She was an amazing lady- intelligent, insightful, strong and so interesting. I learned a lot from her while working together. Thinking of you all during this difficult time. Sue and Russ Borrowman

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    Lawrence & Joan Larocque says

    Our condolences to Carole’s families.

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    Ted & Karin Ceelen says

    Our deepest and most heartfelt condolences to the family.

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    Donna Singleton says

    So sorry for your family’s loss. Carole has been a good neighbour and friend during our twenty years at the lake. She will be missed and remembered for her compassionate nature and big smile.

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    Ann Carroll says

    So sorry for your loss

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    Keith & Audrey Featherston says

    Keith and I wish to convey to the family our most sincere and heartfelt sympathy. Carole was a true friend and gave so much of herself to anyone who requested her assistance. She was the kindest, most caring person we know. Her many years of service to the Lake Association was greatly appreciated and she will be sorely missed by all. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. RIP dear friend.

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    Ellen Burnell says

    I am so sorry to hear that Carole has left us. She was a wonderful friend and a role model to us all. We will miss her. My deepest sympathy goes to her family.

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    Claire Backes says

    My condolences to the entire Gilmer Family.

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    Tania Stover says

    Our sincere condolences to Jeff, Erin, Richard, Rod, Reg, Anita and everyone in the family. We were so sad to hear of Carole’s passing. It is especially difficult when we’re not able to gather together, but please know that our thoughts are with all of you.
    With love, Tania & Murray

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    Linda Cuthbertson says

    The beauty of a life well lived is it never dies, it continues to embrace and inspire. May all her family find comfort in the memories.

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      Janet and Hugh Jeffrey says

      Please accept our deepest condolences to the Marriner family. Memories will help you get thru these difficult times.Janet and Hugh Jeffrey

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    Roger and Joyce Francis says

    Our sincere condolences to the family. Carole was a great lady.

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    Sandra Fraser says

    Dear Erin,
    So sorry to learn of your Mom’s passing. Although I never met her, she sounds like an exceptional lady from her obituary. I am Fairlie’s mom and she told me that you had come east on this sad occasion. Please extend our condolences to Andrew, Connor, Jessica and other family members. I hope that memories of happy times will bring you peace and comfort and I hope that we meet again some time in Whistler. God bless.

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    Dukke van der Werf says

    Our sincere condolences to the family. Over the years we enjoyed many outings with Carole and knew her as a kind and fun companion.

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    Carol and Bob Passmore and Barbara Disbrowe says

    We are sending our deepest sympathies to you. We have so many fond memories of our time spent over the years. She was an inspirational woman.

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    Rhonda Stewart says

    It was with heartfelt sympathy that I learned of Carole’s passing. My sincere condolences go to both Erin and Jeff and family members. There are a select group of us who have such fond memories of your Mom and the scrap booking retreats we went on together, or the weekend workshops we had at Adam Lake. Your Mom was generous with her knowledge, her time and her home. We were always sorry when the weekends came to an end. She was a wonderful person and will be missed by so many.

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    Michael Hall and Wendy Jahn-Hall says

    Our sincerest condolences to the family.

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    Dwayne & Wilma Fawcett says

    Anita, Greg, and Family and the Gilmer family
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very sad time.

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    Nicole Roberts says

    We are so sad. Wish we could be together to celebrate Carole. We will miss her. All our love.

    Nicole & Marlene and family

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    Nick & Lynn Thurler says

    Our sincerest condolences to the family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

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    Rhonda says

    Richard & Debbie and the rest of the Gilmer Families,
    Please accept our sincerest condolences.
    Jeff, Rhonda, Avery and Jacob Holmes

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    Maureen Beamish says

    To all Carole’s family and friends…and there were so many…my sincerest condolences. She will be missed.
    Over all the years that I’ve known Carole, can’t ever recall her complaining…Perhaps about me when I wasn’t there? She was always eager for the next adventure and loved to share a laugh…and there were many.
    A life well lived.

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    Terry Graham says

    So sorry to hear about Carole. Her zest for, and approach to, life was always admirable. Our sincere condolences to her immediate and extended families.

    Terry and Christine

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    Jill (Stover) Miner says

    I was so very sorry to hear from Mom and Dad that Carole had passed away. I know you will keep her in your hearts always. She will be missed by all of our family.
    With love, Jill and Ralf (Winnipeg)

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    Bill & Wilma Tibben says

    Our sympathy to the entire Gilmer family.

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    Christine Peringer says

    Dear Jeff, Erin and family,

    It is with great sadness that we learned of your mother’s death.  I write on behalf of the Board of Directors of Lanark County Community Justice where Carole has been a treasured volunteer facilitator since 2012.  Carole was admired for her ability to really listen to both adults and young people and her high degree of compassion for those facing challenges.
    Carole has a history of strong support for many groups including Big Brothers Big Sisters, the Perth and District Community Foundation and other causes. Her passing is a real loss to the community of organizations seeking to strengthen the social fabric of our County.

    All the best in this time of celebration of Carole and grief at her loss,

    Christine Peringer, on behalf of the Board of Directors, Staff and Volunteers of
    Lanark County Community Justice

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    Bill Richardson says

    Dear Erin and Jeff,

    We are very sad to hear of Carole’s passing. She will be missed by all who knew her. We have many wonderful memories of your Mom over the years and trust you will carry on her love of life and adventure.

    Lisa, Kelly and I send our love and virtual hugs.

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    Dale Gilmer says

    Sorry to hear of the passing of your sister Carole. Linda and I send our sincere condolences to you. May you trust in God for all your needs at this difficult time.

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